Ever since I remember, my modus operandi (MO) has been to give people the benefit of the doubt. At times, it has presented me as naive or gullible but allowing people to be as great as they want to be has always been a right I respect.
To enable this right, I have perhaps given more than I should have to facilitate their success. This has taken me on the path to learn a new lesson, the truth of: Walk the Talk.
I learned that I am a person that walks the walk.
How did I learn this? I learned this by realizing that there are people that talk the talk and they do it extremely well.
I see this a lot in the political and professional world. The talkers and the walkers are not always the same and this lends to an ease of disengaging with the ethics of walking the talk. However, my closest experience with talking the talk was when I suddenly came into a parenting role of an older child at a time when it was prime that I learn this lesson. The child was an expert at talking the talk. This led me to learn to define boundaries. I was open to the talk but I wanted to see results so I established my new truth. I said, “Don’t tell me, JUST DO IT!”
My point was and still is that a great amount of energy (if not cost) is expelled telling about it and Just Do It, as we grew to know later, is always the final proof.
I have learned that walking the walk is a sin of humility but sure gets things done. It provides personal pleasure and great rewards in achievement, personal achievement. However, if our work is to be shared at any given point in time, then the talking part is key to facilitate how we or others leverage our walk.
About eight years ago I realized that I can set the walk, and talk the walk for others but was still haunted by the humility handicap of thinking that my walk would set me free. I realized that if I wanted to share the walk I was walking I needed to learn to talk too.
By talking, others become aware of your walk. Even though you may have a lifetime of walking the walk, that’s just the world we live in.
Another benefit of talking the walk is that you can find others who are of the same journey and follow an amazing path, and you can become enriched with sharing your walk and learning from theirs because, as we advance in our way, reinventing the wheel is not something we care to do much of so often.
So here I am as I learn more about talking my walk without sacrificing the time I prefer to walk my walk.
And you, what is your approach? Do you walk your talk?