When we look at someone do we focus on how they are different? How do these differences make us feel?
Over our lifetime we encounter many situations where we meet new people: friends, classmates, coworkers. The list grows even more if we have the opportunity to broaden our horizons and travel. We encounter people from other neighborhoods, other regions, and even other cultures.
How do we evaluate the person and begin to read them or perhaps we don’t get that far and judge just from their appearance.
Do we focus on identifying how they are different and find all the exceptions as to why they are not like us? How do these differences make us feel?
Differences can make some people feel uncomfortable, unsure or even afraid.
People that have the opportunity to experience broader circles of people learn more tools to relate with differences.
One very valuable tool is to focus on how we are the same.
If we focus on finding more ways we can relate to each other as similar people we become more open and accepting. We can develop a better relationship from the beginning.
Once we establish a connection we can then focus on the ways in which we are unique. In this manner we can value the difference as an enhancement and contribution to our bond.
Think of this process next time you meet someone new.
Let us find how we are alike,
and relish on our uniqueness.
These are the gifts we bring to the whole.
Lilibeth André is a naturopath and pranic healer. She uses transpersonal psychology and ministry to bring wholistic health and balance. She is an artist and author, a partner and a mother, almost a grandmother but not yet.